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Divorce parties are not very common in Malaysia compared to some Western cultures. In Malaysian society, divorce is generally viewed as a private and sensitive matter, and it is not typically celebrated openly. Instead, divorce is often perceived as a somber event that requires support and understanding from friends and family.

1. Why?

Support and understanding from friends and family.

In Malaysia culture, divorce was seen as a failure and brought shame to the family, particularly for women. More people need to understand that divorce can be an act to protect the couple benefits.

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2. Who to invite

Before the divorce paper is signed, the couple most likely would have kept the matter undisclosed.

Other than the couple’s closest family and friends, other friends and relative would have no idea what was going on.

A party can be group of ten, a group of twenty. The friends and family you needed to be there to support you, the one you feel safe to pour your feelings over.

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3. Live Band

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Let’s admit it. We have more sad songs than the happy one in our playlist. We had enough of “Beautiful in white” and “Can’t help falling in love” anyway.

Music and its lyrics are one of the best way to express your current thoughts.

To suggest a few:

We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together!

Thank you Next! Thank you Next. I’m so f*cking grateful for my ex…

I’m a mess, I’m a loser I’m a hater I’m a user I’m a mess

Never mind I’ll find, someone liked you

I can buy myself flowers, write my name in the same

阳光下的泡沫，是彩色的，就像被骗的我，是幸福的

分手应该体面 谁都不要说抱歉

全靠当天喜欢过错的人，今天先会自我解窘

我想我可以习惯一个人生活

4. Giving speech

Get thing serious for a few minutes. It’s the limited time you can let your peers know your true feeling. There were happy moments undeniably, but let them respect the decision you had made.

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Here’s an example speech you may use at your divorce dinner.

Ladies and gentlemen,

Thank you all for being here today to join me in celebrating this occasion. While it may seem unusual to gather for a divorce party, I believe it’s essential to find reasons to celebrate the transformative moments in our lives. Today, we are here to commemorate the end of a chapter and the beginning of a new one.

Divorce is a word often associated with pain, heartbreak, and disappointment. It represents the breakdown of a once-promising union, and it’s natural to experience a range of emotions during such a challenging time. However, I stand before you today with a different perspective. I choose to view divorce as a gateway to personal growth, self-discovery, and ultimately, happiness.

Marriage is an institution built on love, commitment, and the hope of a lifelong partnership. But sometimes, despite our best efforts, circumstances change, and two paths that were once aligned start to diverge. It takes courage to acknowledge when a relationship is no longer serving both individuals, and it takes even more courage to take the necessary steps to separate and seek a better future.

Today, we celebrate not the end of a marriage, but the strength and resilience it took to make this decision. We honor the courage it took to embark on a new journey, even when the road ahead seemed uncertain. Divorce is not a sign of failure; it’s a testament to the human spirit’s ability to adapt, grow, and evolve.

Divorce reminds us of our resilience, our capacity to heal, and our ability to find joy even in the face of adversity. It teaches us the importance of self-care, self-love, and personal growth. It challenges us to redefine our relationships with others and, most importantly, with ourselves.

In closing, let us toast to the future, to new beginnings, and to the limitless possibilities that lie ahead. May we all find happiness, love, and fulfillment on our individual paths. May we continue to grow, evolve, and celebrate the beautiful tapestry of life. And may we always remember that our worth is not defined by our relationship status but by the love we have for ourselves and the impact we have on the world.

Thank you all once again for joining me today, and let the celebration begin!

Cheers!

5. It’s not to blame, it’s for closure

Many people blame their other halves, or even themselves for this to happen.

Take this opportunity to let the words of your friends and family to comfort you. You may realise other people don’t judge you the way you think.

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6. Divorce registry

It might not be necessary, but it’s fun and meaningful to think about.

A divorced woman or man may need more material support compared to newly-wed.

Espresso machine, the washing machine, TV. Whatever you lost hold of during the separation.

7. Education

Divorce is not the end of the world.

Divorce may be the best option you had.

Divorce can be painful, stressful, depressing, until you accept it and start finding new ways out.

There might be mistakes, more importantly we are able to learn from the mistakes.

We are not asking you to feel proud of your divorce, but to accept it with poise.

In Chinese culture, maintaining harmony and saving face are often valued, and this can influence communication patterns. Some individuals may be more reserved or cautious in expressing their thoughts or emotions directly, especially in certain social or hierarchical contexts. They may rely on subtle cues, gestures, or nonverbal communication to convey their message.

If you have older children, it’s also a good time to let your children understand your decision. Let them understand it’s not an easy decision for both you and the child, and there’s challenges laying ahead for your family.

If you’re in an awkward position to send out the invitation, you can totally hire someone professional to do it.

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P.S. We couldn’t use the actual event photos without the permission of the divorcee.